Step 1: distance myself from the situation before appropriate amounts of coffee have been consumed.
I said to the Korean teacher with a much too over the top smile, “I’m so glad she’s going to cry again today because you’re still holding her hand!!” she laughed so my passive-agressive sarcastic approach had the intended effect (none). Time to take many slow breaths and prepare for this girl to cry during the entire music class.
Thor loves exactly three things: following Winter around, sleeping on or inside of everything in the apartment, and just sitting around staring at stuff.
Also this random exchange just happened
DH: what’s your favorite animal?
Me, in a mumbled whisper, without looking up from tumblr: ..cats
Me, same voice: because.. cat
I almost didn’t post this because it’s so stupid, but I figure my real friends are people who put up with me saying something about my cats every five seconds.. and as a reward for those who still follow me my next post will contain pictures of them because I’m on my iPad and don’t know how to add them to this post
We got this new five year old student and she’s a pretty emotional kid.. The other five year olds just cover their ears when she cries because they’re as sick of it as I am, and during the break I just see her walking around attached to this Korean teacher’s hand.. Whenever the class time bell rings she cries when that Korean teacher leaves her at the door, and I literally just want to yell at her (the Korean teacher, not the five year old) to go the eff away but damn it that’s so inappropriate :(
Anyway she’s been making a LOT of progress, I’m talking smiles during class and considerably shorter crying sessions.. but today someone freaking taught her how to say “teacher hug me please” and now instead of making progress she’s crying out the words “teacher hug me please” every time I walk away from her and duh she doesn’t understand “wait please” or “dude I can’t hug you for 35 minutes, there are four other kids here who love music class”
What’s with all the kids and mosquito bites suddenly? Should I be taking cover? Seriously I made it all the way through summer with just a few bad ones and then today EVERY STUDENT appears to be in agonizing pain trying to keep from scratching themselves. One boy had his eye almost swollen shut because two critters bit his eyelid.
So basically why now, should I be concerned, and is there a mosquito apocalypse happening that everyone is talking about and purposely keeping a secret from me just for giggles?
It seems that most of us generally meet people through online dating like POF and OK Cupid, along with apps like Tinder and other Korean apps.
Do you ever wonder, if the person that we blog about is actually the same person that you are blogging about?
We’re all on there for the same reason, to…
I’m pretty sure this happens, and I was paranoid about it too when I was doing the whole app/online dating thing. Any time I read something that might be remotely applicable to a guy that I was seeing/hooking up with, I was like “*GASP*” though usually it was a false alarm, ahaha. Part of me is STILL paranoid about it, even though the dude I am seeing has proven himself to be a decent guy, and I also met him at a squeaky-clean offline establishment.
But yeah, once a Seoul tumblrette let me flick through her chats on 1KM to see how many double-ups there were, and there were five or six guys that I recognized, because they had also talked to me. This was including one dude that she actually hooked up with — and subsequently dumped to the curb, but still. Haha. Fortunately there was no overlap in hookups, coz that would have been awkward, but yeahhhhh. Take from that what you will, haha. I’m sure there has been an overlap somewhere for someone. This was why I liked to stick pretty much exclusively to dudes in Suwon, but even that proved to not be entirely safe!
Discovering that friends and I were chatting to the same dude on an app has happened to me twice. I found it more hilarious than awkward, but I did get upset over one thing: both those guys wasted no time getting to the sex talk with me while they were entirely polite and charming to my friends. Not that it matters, but the sex talk was not initiated by me in either case, so there must be something about me visually that signals “DTF”. I didn’t appreciate being singled out like that, harumph.
This is so true for me too. I am so paranoid that I will hook up with someone a close friend of mine has hooked up with or even worse start dating someone that is hooking up with other people on the app. I just made up my mind to stop dating on the apps unless for the occasional hook up, I am staying clear away.
You can all rest assured, I didn’t meet DH on a dating app and all he ever does on his phone is read webtoons. Plus he lives at my apartment. :P
Got up before me, went to my favorite coffee shop, and brought me back a large coffee while I was still in bed.
Helped me clean my apartment, then helped me untangle three sizable heaps of yarn.
Bought me a 12-pack of A&W root beer.
Dude is pretty on point today.You’d think it’s our anniversary or something.. But that’s next weekend :P
Who would have known that the highlight of my break would be spending a night in a hotel literally across the street from my apartment? I live in an interesting neighborhood.. Let me just give you a picture:
-moments away from one of the red light districts. In fact it’s highly visible right on one of the main streets. I accidentally made eye contact with a lady through one of the glass walls while riding a bus thw first time I noticed it. I was staring because I was so surprised that I had only just noticed it and that it was literally just RIGHT THERE.
-my main street is lined with motels, noraebangs, bars, and nightclubs. It’s a pretty popular stop for other Asian tourists because the airport bus and some other tour buses stop here, but it’s mostly a place for old business men. After they get off work, they come here and do whatever they do. Spend money I guess. Everything has this vibe of being high class and costing a lot of money, but there’s this layer of shadiness on top of everything that just makes it seem the opposite of classy.
-true story, my brother’s last night here we tried to find a noraebang in this neighborhood. The first one we walked into was like.. DH: How much for one hour? *ladies peeking out with confused looks* one of the workers: “Uh.. This place..” it took me exactly two seconds to be back at the top of the stairs, completely embarrassed.
So anyway, after we couldn’t find a hotel last night we were looking on yanolja for a place around here and one of the highest rated hotels was this hotel right across the street that I’ve made fun of constantly since I moved here. It’s the brightest building on the street at night, you can’t miss it. XD
The nicest room that wasn’t a party room was about $120 a night and I wanted to still feel like I was on vacation so I figured why not. THIS ROOM HAD ITS OWN SAUNA ROOM. Haha DH said he was watching me sleep this morning and I looked so peaceful, and I felt it. Best night of sleep I’ve gotten in months and I needed it SO BAD. And then to be able to wake up, take a bath, sit in the hot room for a while, take a shower, slowly get ready.. Wow okay yeah, I think I can go to work tomorrow. I can’t wait to tell my coworkers (except my boss) where I stayed last night. They’ll think it’s as hilarious as I did.
Aka why am I so stressed on my vacation
I’m feeling pretty discouraged. It’s like this city has everything you could possibly want to do, but you can’t actually do any of it because of some stupid rule or extra fee.
Lotte World, wtf is up with your no reentry policy? Do you really think people want to pay ridiculous (even with discount) prices to go spend an entire day trapped inside your park? We are even supposed to eat inside, when there’s an entire city full of restaurants outside the gates? And the only loophole is to buy tickets to the ice rink in order to be allowed back inside.. Maybe if you’d fix your lines and fast passes I’d be more willing to consider a day-long stay. We lost most of the money on our tickets because we were so bored after a few hours and didn’t want to just stay there waiting in line for a bunch of rides that weren’t worth the wait.
I decided “okay let’s pick our hotel and go there, drop our stuff off, have dinner, go out for a bit and come back” and we call the hotel which looks AMAZING and they want us to check in at 10pm uhh okay I thought this WASNT a love motel. We ask for an earlier check in and they give us 9:00. LOL NO. So we’re like “then let’s go home and pick a different place” which sounds great because my phone is dying..
We’ve been here for over an hour now with no luck, sorry I don’t want to pay a hundred bucks for something that’s not great. Staying here for the night would be honestly a huge disappointment because right now Winter is in heat.. It’s my fault for not having time or money to have her surgery done, but right now I just can’t handle the growling and moaning and it’s my fucking break I just want to relax TT
Now we might as well just have dinner and go with the first place that was gonna ask us to check in late. My eyes are burning from looking at computer screens. Why the fuck do I have to confirm my phone number with my name and birthday every time I want to use any website (my phone is in my boss’s name so that’s a pain)? Why does every payment system require some stupid certificate not allowed on mobile devices or macs? Why is EVERYTHING IN KOREA SO COMPLICATED
"interactive notebooks are kind of the most important thing in my life right now" is actually a thing I’ve said to someone today
So we got this new five year old girl who cries for her mom every morning and admittedly she’s freaking adorable but the Korean staff has this solution of picking her up and consoling her during the break after she’s just been FINE in class which is just prolonging her period of crying throughout the day. Awesome.
Four more days until I can literally shut myself inside for five days and block out all the stupid
Suddenly, it’s like the sky opened up and rained down good fortune upon me.
My director came into my class just now and was like “are you doing something important can they read these books” and then without even waiting for an answer he just passed out all these books to the kids. Apparently they’re all supposed to be reading for some book report they have to submit to some competition and even though I’m not the teacher helping them with that they get to use my class time to work on it. Normally I’d be a bit annoyed by something like this but honestly my condition is so poor right now that I’m welcoming the peace (I even just typed piece and had to delete it) and quiet.
Then his wife came in and told me that she had bargained with my phonics class that is almost no longer a phonics class because we just finished the last book, and they somehow earned a class party and she went out and bought a snack for each kid (they got to request what they wanted individually). So for that class period I’m just going to let them watch a movie. Then I have the twin boys from that class who are the bane of my existence - they stay after twice a week for private lessons - but I’m just gonna squeeze ten minutes of book work out of them and then play a game.
Someone just sneezed and I tried to explain “bless you” but then I just gave up and started typing again. I’m going to sleep for like 15 hours tonight.
Not doing well. I’ve had a headache for three days. I cussed out some lady on the street for waiting until she was about to run me over to ring the bell on her bike. I feel like I’m about to just snap at any moment. I need a break.
Already not a good morning. I don’t take myself so seriously as to whine that my kindergarten students disrespect me (because come on). Most of the time I don’t take myself that seriously anyway, so I don’t expect much more than kids jumping off the tables when I come in to teach music. It’s amazing that their attention spans allowed me to teach them the difference between a line note and a space note.
The dynamic has just gotten so messed up in my baby (5/6 years) class. There’s one little boy that eeeeevery kid wants to sit next to. They will fight and cry if they can’t sit with him. Their attention during class is on him. In fact, sometimes I will say something and he will loudly tell everyone what he thinks I said, which is not always correct (because he wasn’t fully listening either). I can regain some sense of control (although I don’t really like calling it that) if I ask for it, but I’m tired of the drama. Actually, the only time he acts like he DOESN’T understand me is if he’s done something wrong and I’m asking him to stop. Then he just shrugs and says in Korean that he doesn’t know what I’m saying.
I guess my biggest problem is that with these kids being so young and this being a music class meant for them to play and enjoy themselves, I’ve been so focused on keeping a positive environment that I don’t follow a classroom management routine for this class. I thought I wouldn’t need it. My thought was “change activity frequently enough to keep interest and discipline isn’t necessary” - while that may be true sometimes, it’s also exhausting and sometimes there are legitimately times when I need them to listen.
I’m feeling guilty. The kids were lined up because I was giving them each a piece of vitamin candy. I let them choose the color they want sometimes, so today I asked what they wanted. One girl hesitated, so I asked her again, but I knew what she was doing. She wanted the boy behind her (THAT boy) to go first so she could get the same color as him. But he was behind her and I certainly was not about to change colors for every kid in front of her who had already gotten candy. So I waited, and then I chose a random color and held it out to her. She wouldn’t accept it, so after waiting a few more seconds I said calmly, “Okay then, you don’t want candy today. That’s alright.” Of course, after the next boy got his candy she finally told me what color she wanted but I ignored her. She really wanted only the same as him or nothing at all, because finally I tried offering her the same piece if candy again after a few seconds and she still wouldn’t take it. Okay. It’s just candy. Not worth ruining my day (but what have I been typing about for five minutes).
This same girl has pushed people out of the way to try to sit next to him and has also cried when someone got there first and didn’t move. The few times I got a higher up to help me with one of her fits their way of solving it was, “Okay you can sit with him NEXT time, alright??” EXCUSE ME STOP GIVING THE KIDS WHAT THEY WANT EVERY TIME THEY THROW A FIT YOU ARE MAKING MY JOB SO DIFFICULT
and really that should be the main topic of this rant. The truth is discipline does not fall on me, if I have problems I am supposed to send them to the boss and let him handle it. And it’s a toss up over what result that will yield, because sometimes he is too harsh on them and others he sends them back with a few finger wags, “don’t do that,” and a smirky grin on the kid’s face that says, “I just totally got away with that.” So can’t I get a good balance where the kid doesn’t end up crying but the director is still on my side?