If a parent is here and you want me to talk her out of pulling her kid from the class, there are a few things I need.
First of all, give me rundown on the situation. Why is she here? What are her concerns? What can I tell her to make the situation better? Is this about me personally or about her classmates, the school, etc? Don’t just bring me in there and say, “Okay, would you like to talk about _____?” Uh what exactly does she want to know about the kid? What am I supposed to say? Give me something to work with here.
Don’t mistranslate my words or her words. I’m smarter than that and there’s a chance she is, too. If I said the kid is very sweet and lively don’t just throw in “very smart.” Likewise, if the mother just said “I’m concerned because I feel like my kid is doing the same thing in class every day and not progressing past that point” you should TELL ME THAT so I can defend against that (because it’s not true) rather than saying back to her that “we need to spend a lot of time on each lesson because the basics are very important.” A fine point, but not relevant to the situation. We progress smoothly and continuously in this class because we are ABLE to, and possibly the reason she feels like things might be repetitive is because I give ample review material periodically to check retention. THAT is what needed to be said, so give me a chance to clarify rather than making things more cloudy because you don’t understand the situation entirely.
I’m so stressed by parents right now. I’m mad over kids dropping for stupid reasons and not being given a chance to fix things. And I need acknowledgment for the amount of time and energy I put into providing a GOOD education to kids I care about rather than being left to think I did something wrong. I swear if I keep being asked to do MORE work like this I’m going to lose my mind.
So aside from getting overly emotional about an adorable bus (twice)
Today was hard. I’ve felt like I’ve been getting too much sleep lately. I don’t know what’s up, but I know my body doesn’t need 9 or 10 hours of sleep every night, and I think getting that much is actually making me more tired. So I’ve been making an effort to get up earlier (failing mostly) - this morning I managed a full 15 minutes and it felt good. Weird thing is that even though my phone was plugged in it only had 75% battery left, and by lunch even though I hadn’t touched it all morning it was down to 4%. It’s acting totally normal now so idk. *shrug*
Anyway today was field trip day. I don’t mind field trips (I actually think they’re kind of fun), but I have to admit this one took a lot out of me. After getting back, my break was taken away leaving me with just a little prep. The other teachers were on edge because the director told them they could go outside if they wanted and then he decided that was crazy and had to call them all back when they were already gone.. I didn’t understand what all the fuss was about, it was their break time after all.
Then he approached me during my very small prep time and announced that he’s going to have me working on a very large project which he seems to think I have already finished.. He wants a yearly plan with a handful of songs (labeled 1st/2nd/3rd year kindergarten in terms of difficulty) FOR EACH THEME (there is a new theme every two weeks). Each song should have some sort of hand choreography/finger play which I need to do in front of a camera so he can send it off to an animation company, and then it will all be put into some sort of software that he can send home to the parents to practice at home with their kids.
It all seems nice (sort of) but it also seems like a lot of work and money for something that will go largely unappreciated and underused. Is business bad or something? Why the change in the way I’m being treated all of a sudden..
Anyway, I teach his son piano on Tuesdays and Thursdays. Has anyone ever had a kid cry during a private lesson? Maybe this is just me being a horrible person but I think they usually deserve it. Today was no exception - the kid was copping this huge attitude with me and I was putting up with it until I told him the same thing 20 times and he still kept getting the rhythm wrong.
Me: You are not counting. You need to count.
Me: Because if you aren’t counting, then the rhythm is wrong, and if you’re playing the wrong rhythm you might as well be playing the entire thing incorrectly. Again.
He kept getting more and more frustrated, I could hear it in his playing and maybe I should have stopped him and asked him to calm down, but like I said his attitude was shit and I needed him to realize that he can’t just dump on me when he’s pissed off about having to play piano. So I let him keep going. Again. Again. Still wrong. Again. Then he locked up.
Him: I can’t. It’s too hard.
His eyes were watering, and instead of contempt I heard defeat for the first time in over a year. Was I trying to break this kid? Absolutely not. But do I have to take this kind of shit attitude twice a week from him? Uh, I hope not. Well anyway, now I have his attention. NOW he’s interested in “how” rather than just plowing through it. So I made him slow way down, I asked him to count the meter while playing, I had him isolate the two beats that were giving him trouble. And soon it was so engrained in muscle memory I’m sure he can’t even remember it being a problem. Sigh. Too hard? Only with the wrong attitude. At least for the rest of the lesson he played diligently and without complaining.
I also promised to let him out early if I never had to hear him ask “how many minutes left” ever again. He still bolted out the door without even saying goodbye after I let him go. It’s not just me he’s like this with, it’s every foreign teacher who has ever worked at this school. He respects his Korean teachers, but sees us as people he can speak casually to.
I’ve been seeing that yellow bus around for a few weeks now, and aside from yellow being my favorite color it just looks SO CUTE and I’ve been dying to see it up close/get to ride on it, especially since it’s a bus I ride nearly every day. Somehow it never worked out and I kept saying “gahhh where’s that yellow bus”
Getting on it twice today was not really the most exciting thing in the world, but it was amusing enough to be exactly what I needed after getting off work today. When something so small can make you smile like that, it sort of makes you realize that the sucky parts are not so bad and can be easily recovered from.
Pfft what good is having a cat if she doesn’t get curious enough about a spider to accidentally kill it for me.. Had to kill it myself. Hmmph.
I’m on it again. The same bus! Going home now :)
I’m serious I legit cried a little bit because every time I see this bus I’m either MISSING it or I don’t need to be on it at the moment
And today was just so bad and I walk out of work, go to the bus stop and that freaking bus drives up and smiles at me
I’m so happy I could cry
I probably will cry
It finally happened
I’m on that freaking yellow bus and it’s everything I hoped it would be
When you use “don’t judge me on my past” and “gonna smash your face in” in the same sentence, I have a strange feeling it’s not your past you’re being judged on..
When you walk into your classroom during the break time and the kids start waving you away saying “teacher no no no no no” you know it’s going to be THAT kind of day
I guess I’ve had a huge overdose of emotions lately, because yesterday DH and I decided to see a movie and the theater had no good ones so we decided to see Captain America AGAIN because we already watched it last week
And at mumblemumblecoughspeechthing and srghlghsgcaptainsorders I teared up. Not the first time, but the second time watching it. And a few other times too. Wtf I mean I’m not gonna say “I’m not one to cry during movies” because we all know that’s not true but Captain America? uhh
Also I’m apparently very sleepy because I just complained to DH on the phone about how my toothbrush jabbed the top of my mouth and it hurts and then we were absentmindedly taking turns calling that awful jerk toothbrush bad names and then he was like “hey watch your mouth” and I’m still laughing
I’ve noticed that Winter is a total bitch whenever DH is here but as soon as he leaves she’s the most precious cuddly little angel ever. Territorial maybe?
“yessssssss always remember that I’m the one who never leaves you”
“actually about me bolting out the door this morning, can we just scratch that one off the record”
I wonder what this bus driver thinks when I get on the bus at my stop with DH to the stop where literally everyone except me gets off the bus (because duh it’s about to turn around) and then ride the bus all the way back to the exact same stop and get off
Like is he thinking, “Aww how sweet she wanted to spend more time with her bf so she rode the bus with him to his subway transfer”
Or “man is this girl dumb or what she just rode this bus in a circle does she not understand what buses are for or something”
"oh she was too lazy to cross the street so she took the bus"
"shit I forgot to turn the sign around"^ probably
Went to a cafe, sat on second floor. He went downstairs to smoke and called to say he was watching me.
Made up for earlier disappointment by ignoring everything he said and pretending to squish him between my fingers.
Souvenir picture from the hotel where I got left alone for five hours because dh fell asleep at his grandma’s when he went to check on her..